I have been asked many times recently why our family chose Christian education.
We are certainly not in the majority, and people don’t really have an understanding of why we do what we do.
I decided to just write about it here to clarify a few things.
I have started writing this post many times, and I keep pushing it off because I just don’t want to write it.
The reason I keep pushing it off is because I have many, many friends and family who send their children to public school and I still love them and have a great amount of respect for how they are raising their children.
This is in no way, shape or form a post that is trying to go against the decisions of anyone who sends their children to public school.
I am not trying to say that anyone is wrong in their choices, and I am not judging anyone for their choices.
I am not trying to start a debate and I am not saying why we did not choose public education, but I am saying we we did choose Christian education.
This is simply the perspective we have and choose to apply to our parenting.
Also, when I talk about “Christian education” I am including homeschooling (when it is taught from a Biblical perspective)
With that all being said, I am just going to share the top 3 reasons we choose Christian education. I am not comparing, I am not saying negatives of the public school. I am just saying the positives of a Christian school.
Christian education is not cheap. And that’s a fact.
It takes a really strong passion about this commitment to stay with it.
If we were like…maybe we will? Maybe we wont’t… then we probably wouldn’t.
We realize that with this decision, comes a lot of sacrifices on our part.
It means the kitchen floor stays unfinished, it means the cars we drive are older, and it means thrift store shopping is the way to go.
But we are never tempted to do things any differently, because we believe in this so strongly.
There are many misconceptions about why people send their kids to Christian school, and I’m sure people’s reasons are all different.
But for us…these are the three main reasons.
1.So our kids can be surrounded by teachers, faculty and staff who live their lives the same way we are raising our kids to live theirs.
This first one is the main reason. I think most people believe that Christian education is chosen because of the other students at the school. That is not it for us. Sure, there are probably going to be more Christians than at a public school, but that really is not the main factor. At the beginning of the school year, Adam and I met with Riley’s principal and teachers to discuss how he was doing adjusting to a new school. We started the meeting in prayer, and I was brought to tears as I heard this woman pray over my son. She was praying over my boy. She prayed that their goal as faculty and staff would be to encourage Riley to be everything God wanted him to be. She asked for wisdom in how we handled things and how they handled things. She prayed that he would grow to be a godly young man. And I heard all the other teachers agreeing with her prayers. We were on the same page. They start every morning with a devotional and prayer. There is an amazing moms in prayer group that meets every week and prays over each and every kid BY NAME. The teachers have the desire to not only do what they think is best, but what God thinks is best. And the fact that Adam and I have put so much hard work into giving our kids the foundation that they have, there is an incredible peace that comes with knowing that the teachers desire is to simply encourage what we have already done. Teachers are amazing. They become role models to our boys as they grow. The role models I see AJ and Riley looking up to as they have been in school are ones that I would hand pick for them. They respect these teachers. They look up to them. They want to be like them. And no amount of money will stop me from surrounding my boys with these kinds of people that they can look up to. (Special thanks to Mr. Beal and Mr. Heckleman for being 2 of those role models.)
2. To give our kids a Bible based education
According to Colossians 2:8, we are to: See to it that no one takes you captive through hollow and deceptive philosophy, which depends on human tradition and the elemental spiritual forces of this world rather than on Christ. The Bible is the all-powerful, sufficient Word of God. It is truth. Every single word. We believe that with a passion, and we love that our kids are able to learn about science, philosophy, history, logic, and every other thing with the backbone being Christ. We are not raising them to live life based on their feelings, on tradition, or on deceptive philosophy. And as any parent can see…those things are in our faces as truth everywhere we turn. I love that my kids are spending almost 8 hours every day listening to people speak truth. What that does is give them more discernment when they hear things that are untrue. That is setting them up for success.
3. So we do not have any regrets.
I know that many, many people went to public school and were fine. They were strong leaders. Made godly choices and are now living life like God would want them to.
However. There is really only one way to find out if you can make it…taking the risk.
I mean, don’t misunderstand me. I am not saying that there is no “risk” regardless of where you send your kids to school. They are free to make their own choices and to do whatever they want in life. But I am choosing to live my life with no regrets. And what that looks like for me, is setting my kids up for success in every possible way that I can. If they still fail? I don’t have to feel guilty that I could have done something differently.
I refuse to live my life with regret.
I remember hearing Adam’s parents say that phrase as they were sending 5 children to Christian school. I remember feeling my parents live out that phrase as they sent 4 children to Christian school. For my parents? It meant my dad taking extra jobs of paper routes and grave digging. But they didn’t want to live with regrets either.
For us? It’s the same. No regrets.
So. I am sure that I have stirred things up in your hearts and minds, and my hope is that you can see my heart through this post.
It is about my parenting. Of my children. And the decisions that Adam and I have made for our family. I hope that you can see it that way.
It is not in comparison to your parenting of your children and the decisions you make for your family. These decisions are between you and God.
I do hope that it has given you food for thought if you were considering sending your kids to Christian school.
Is it hard?
Yes. I drive a half an hour each way to bring my kids to school. There have been days that we have had to make that trip 4 times. Yikes.
It’s expensive. We have had to sacrifice a lot to have our kids attend Christian school.
So yes. Yes, it is hard.
But is it worth it?
A million times yes.
I have never, ever had one moment of a single thought to change my mind. Not one.
I have had many, many emotional moments at concerts, assemblies, chapels, games and meetings that remind me why I do what I do.
Money, possessions, even time…comes and goes.
I only get one chance with my kids.
I’m choosing to live with no regrets.