I’ve seen post after post after post of the modesty “issue”.
There are 2 sides:
Number 1. My body, my choice (cue all the pink signs and women’s marches info) I will wear what I want, when I want and all you men (who are pigs anyways) can just turn your eyes away and leave me alone.
Number 2. You need to wear a snowsuit, with a turtleneck underneath and then make sure no skin at all is showing, because ya know, my husband is going to be going out to the store and won’t know what to do if he sees your bare naked knee.
And those are the 2 sides.
Both pretty extreme, and both wrong. In my opinion of course.
Here is what bothers me when people go on their rants about one side or the other of the debate.
In case anyone has forgotten (which, to be fair, is difficult in today’s world) our entire purpose for being created is to bring glory to God.
So. With that said.
Maybe my modesty isn’t about the freedom I have in dressing however I want.
Maybe my modesty isn’t about your husband.
Maybe my modesty is about obeying God!
Did anyone ever think of this?
When you go to put on your bathing suit this summer, I don’t think your thoughts should necessarily be – Am I going to cause this person to stumble, or what is this or that person going to think, or people shouldn’t be judging me, or I worked hard to look this good, I want to show it off…
I think it needs to be: Am I bringing glory to God and am I obeying his command to dress modestly?
1 Timothy 2:9 says “I also want the women to dress modestly, with decency and propriety…”
Modestly in this verse comes from the word “Aodis” and it means a sense of shame or honour, modesty, bashfulness, reverence, regard for others, respect.
I know, I know. “modestly” is relative, and it depends on the culture, and what’s modest to you might not be modest to me.
Sure, I get it.
But I am also very cautious when I start to feel like I have to justify what I do. I have to stop myself when I start to get on my own little soap box in my own head as I get dressed because maybe, just maybe, that feeling I’m getting is the HOLY SPIRIT’s VOICE!!
I am not even saying what side of the argument I lean towards, because I don’t think that’s even the point.
Somehow, I feel like people are trying to get as close to the line as possible in just about every area of life.
Alcohol, clothing, entertainment, and on and on and on.
I feel like either people aren’t even intentionally asking God what they should do.
(One rule of thumb could be that if everyone in the world is saying it’s ok, maybe those are the things I should look into a little bit before I follow along. Don’t forget. We can be deceived by the deceitfulness of sin. We can. It’s possible. We just need to be careful.)
Or, people are using the “judgment of others” as their excuse to do whatever they want to do. Constantly looking for an excuse to wear, do, say, be whatever they want because of their freedom in Christ. (Paul had a ton to say on this in Romans 6)
So, is my modesty about your husband?
Well, not really.
When I decide that I am going to obey God’s commands, with the perspective of having an OPEN MIND to hear what God is telling me, (not what other people are telling me on one side or the other of the debate) that is when I am the most safe.
That is when I will make decisions that are pleasing to God, not pleasing to other people watching me.
So when you decide what you are going to wear… Make your decision based on your absolute adoration for your incredibly loving Heavenly Father who wants what’s best for you.
Make your decisions about that.
Not about what other people might say.