It’s one of the most amazing and incredible gifts I have ever been given.
When my boys were little, I practically lived with a Bible in one hand and notebook in the other.
I wanted to know all the things that had to do with parenting, and I wanted to get the advice from the one who created my kids and knew them better than I did.
I tried (and still do) to do everything biblically.
I had no interest at all in parenting forums, most parenting books, or the advice of many of the people I saw around me.
I had expectations for how I wanted my boys to be and I stuck to them all the way through.
If I didn’t know what to do in a certain and specific situation, I assumed it was because I just hadn’t found the right Bible verse yet.
I dealt with everything from dealing with the toddler years, how to raise teenagers, dealing with a bad attitude, if I should ground my kids, what to do when your kids get bullied, and a million other things.
I dealt with it biblically and I figured it out. (My parents and older sister were also so instrumental in keeping me focused on biblical parenting.)
I became a foster parent.
Last month, I had a moment where I felt literally, and completely helpless.
I have had times with my kids where I wasn’t exactly sure what to do next, but it was never like this.
I stood in a room with a little boy who was having a tantrum, and I had no idea what to do.
When you start raising a child at the age of 6, after he has had virtually no training at all, it’s a whole new ball game.
I stood there, racking my brain, trying to figure out what I could do that would get through to him.
When you are a foster mom, some things are the same as when you are a mom of your biological kids, but many things are different.
You still have to think about the root problem that is causing the meltdown.
But, when it’s your foster child, you have to think about it from a different perspective…what if something traumatic from his past is causing fear, sadness or anger and that is what is making him feel like he needs to act out in this way?
So. As I stood there. Ready to lose my mind, I thought…wow.
Do parents actually feel this way on a regular basis?
(Foster parenting aside, because tips I have for that are for a different post.)
Are there really parents out there who have raised their kids from the beginning who feel totally and completely helpless and hopeless?
Because if that is the case, I am so sorry for you.
I am so sorry that you have had to feel that way, because it is the worst feeling ever.
I’m sorry that you are frantically looking around seeing what you can take away as punishment.
That you are wondering if it’s worth it to take tv or video games away or if that would hurt you more than it would hurt them! ha!
If you are a parent.
And you are feeling helpless and hopeless as if you absolutely have no idea what to do or where to turn…
Please hear me out.
God’s Word is legit.
It’s a manual that did not leave any holes in it.
It’s designed to be used, read and studied to find out exactly what we need to do to not only survive parenting?
But to enjoy it!
And it has advice for every. single. thing.
Trust me on this.
I have raised 2 boys who are now 14 and 16 and I can tell you without a doubt, that having this manual is the only thing that has allowed me to have the most incredible relationship with my boys, to have boys who are respectful, kind, godly and willing to serve others.
It is not because I got lucky.
And it is not because I’m so smart.
It is because God’s Word changes lives.
And if you are willing to give it a chance, you will never, ever, not ever, regret it.
And if I didn’t make that clear enough, I mean never, ever regret it.
So. To the helpless, hopeless parent. If you are feeling this way, Please reach out to me.
You should NOT have to feel like this!
I am more than happy to give specific ways that you can use your Bible to raise your kids no matter what the situation you are in is.
No situation would surprise me, and no situation is outside what God can handle.
Do not just accept that this is the stage of life you’re in and everyone goes through it, and the only way out is to simply wait it out.
That is false.
You are supposed to have control as the parent.
Do not give that control to your child, or to your emotions!
Parenting is hard work, no doubt about it.
But it is not meant to be the darkest, hardest time of your life.
Let’s do this together. I have a great manual that is designed to meet the exact needs of your child.
You don’t have to feel helpless or hopeless.
Tomorrow is a new day. Make it the start of something amazing.